Faizan Sabzaali

01

Tell us about yourself as a person and as a coach.

My hope is I'm a better person today than I was a year ago. I'm trying to ingrain in myself with a deeper sense of humility, knowing that I am a speck of dust in the vastness of space. This helps me get through the tough parts of life without making it about me. With coaching, I get to help my clients know that they're okay. Maybe they weren't given the tools to feel like they could succeed in life, but they have the inner strength and an unquestionable ability to get to the future they envision for themselves. I help my clients see the patterns that sometimes hold them back from even being able to see a vision for themselves. Once we see those patterns, they can move forward and automatically just let it go.

02

What is Relationship Coaching?

I believe relationships allow us access to the darkest and lightest parts of ourselves that we didn't know we had access to. If we were taught how to be in relationships and were given tools, we would be able to visit those places without being consumed by them. In the simplest terms, Relationship Coaching is focused on learning some basic tools that you can use to be the best version of yourself in that relationship, in the hopes that you can stand in the fire for each other, be a team, and that each individual takes full responsibility and accountability for the relationship.

03

What drew you to this work?

Saira told me to do it :) I found that my own lack of awareness and living in reactivity were taking me down a dark hole. There were times I felt I was losing control of my life, and questioning my own worthiness for this gift of life. Part of it was my own self-journey to get internally aligned, and seeing that I had the capacity, I became aware of the willingness and the desire to help others find their way as well.

04

What is the hardest thing about specializing in helping couples?

The hardest thing is the journey of getting them to be part of the same team. Many of us see the other person as the problem instead of changing our own perspectives and facing the actual problems together.

05

What do you love most about your job?

It is such an honour to see the transformations. It's incredible to watch as their willingness and hard work turn into gold for them.

06

What is the one thing about romantic relationships that most people don't know?

The other person can't give you what you can't give yourself. For example, many of us go into relationships thinking that finally somebody will love us fully, deeply, and accept us as we are....but we'll never get it from them until we can love ourselves deeply and accept ourselves.

07

What would you say to someone who is curious about working with you?

I would say, "Bring your curiosity, bring your hesitation, being your resistance, because we are going to use all of that to go deeper than you might have before."